Self Love Test – Part 1

Loving yourself seems like it should come naturally. But there are a lot of things that can cause you to put up barriers to that love which absolutely must flow freely in order for you to shine your brightest.

Another piece of the ‘Love Puzzle’ is for you to open your heart to others. Yes, that might mean you could get hurt, but when you develop a deep love for yourself, your heart will naturally open of it’s own accord.

This test is designed to help you become aware of things you might not have considered to be part of what is required to love yourself and others more fully. The results will hopefully inspire you to improve in the areas where your scores are less than you’d like. No guilt is allowed, just inspiration.

No one does anything, good or bad, all of the time. Your answers should be what you do ‘most’ of the time.

The goal is to determine what your natural habits are. For it to be a habit, it needs to be the way you are most of the time, your natural state of being.

If you need to change some of those habits, I can teach you how when you register for The Five Facets Of Feminine Grace Online Workshop.

No one is going to see the results but you so allow yourself the fullest, deepest introspection possible. The intention of this test, as well as the workshops I offer, is to help you be your happiest, most magnificent self, shining your brightest.

To access your deepest ‘knowing,’ your intuition, that Wise Woman within you, I recommend you search your heart so you can meet her, by doing a Relaxation Meditation.

Directions: Answer the following 10 questions by filling in the answer most consistent with your point of view. At the end, total up your score, then click the Part 2 link and answer those questions. When you’ve completed the test, add your scores of Part 1 and 2.

Possible answers:

9 – 7 = definitely true

6 – 4 = moderately true

3 – 1 = not at all true

1) I honor my wishes, desires, needs and wants.Do you consider what others need and want before yourself? It’s good to care about what your family and friends, and even your co-workers need, but not at the detriment of your own well-being. How often do you ignore your own needs and desires?Women tend to be givers and when they’re mothers and wives, they often let their own needs take second (or third and fourth) place to the needs of their family. It’s important to remember that you’re no good to others if you’re not good to yourself.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

2) I respect myself.

Do you talk to yourself in a respectful manner? Or do you say things to yourself you’d never say to another? Do you honor your feelings and emotions? Do you allow others to be disrespectful of you, allowing them to be condescending, belittling or cruel?

Self-love (and love of another) requires respect. True love can’t really exist without respect. You show how much you respect yourself by setting boundaries, not allowing others to be disrespectful, and expecting to be treated well.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

3) I am good at nurturing myself.

Do you take the time to be good to yourself? Do you allow yourself the simple pleasures that make you feel good? Do you eat well, get enough sleep, exercise regularly? Do you take time to relax? Do you nourish your mind? Or are you a workaholic, stressed, rushed and unable to stop and smell the roses?

Self-nurturing is a cornerstone of self-love. If you don’t take good care of yourself, who will? When you feel well-nurtured, every moment and every interaction will be filled with more love.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

4) I am playful.

Are you able to let your childish spirit come out and romp? Do you look for opportunities to dance and even be a little silly? Do you make time to be with friends? Do you enjoy playing and flirting with your partner. Or do you take life so seriously that you miss out on the true pleasures of being alive?

Being playful is good for you on so many levels. It’s a great stress release, it allows you to connect at a heart level with others, and it’s good for your health.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

5) I receive compliments well.

When someone compliments you, do you let yourself really hear it? Do you take it in and let if fill your heart? Do you realize that it’s true? Or do you discount the compliments you receive, telling the giver, in various ways, that it’s not true?

When you receive a compliment graciously, really take it in, and let them know it felt good to hear what they said, you feel great and so does the other person. Plus, they’ll enjoy complimenting you in the future. People who discount compliments soon stop getting them.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

6) I feel like I’m special.

Do you understand how wonderfully unique you are? Do you feel like you are a gift to others? Do you feel like you’re a gift to yourself? Or is this an uncomfortable idea?

Women who go through the steps toward self-love that I teach discover how good it feels to know how special they are. The lovely thing about this that it’s not selfish, as some might think, it actually opens their hearts to loving others.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

7) I rarely get angry.

Does it take a lot to upset you? Do you act with compassion at what goes on around you? Do you try to help with what’s going on in the world? Are you patient with the people with whom you interact? Or do you have a short fuse and find yourself upset a lot?

Having worked with several angry people I know from experience that that anger is really a reflection of how they feel about themselves. I’ve watched women lose their anger as their self-love grows. It’s a beautiful thing to see.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

8) I take time to enjoy my creative side.

Most everyone has some kind of creative outlet they enjoy. Do you make time to pursue creative outlets? Are you happy to take the time, or spending the money to give your creative drive what it needs to be expressed? Or have you forgotten about that part of you?

Humans seem to be the only species on the planet that is creative for no other reason than the pleasure of it. Don’t forget how important it is to express your creative side.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

9)  I am generous with my money.

Do you enjoy spending money on the people you care about? Do you enjoy spending money on yourself? Or do you hoard money, resent spending on others and yourself?

Generosity is not about how money you spend, it’s about the heartfelt enjoyment that comes from giving.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

10)  I am generous with my time.

Do you like taking time to be with family and friends? Do you offer to work on projects that will benefit others?

It’s easy to be so busy that you never seem to make time for the people you care about. But making time to be with the people who are important to you will come back to you with their caring.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

11) I am verbally appreciative.

Do you think to let others know they did a good job? Do you thank people for being kind or thoughtful? Do you let your family and friends know that you are happy they are in your life? Or are you too focused on what needs to get done to notice the good things others do?

When you appreciate others, their hearts open to your kindness. Seeing that in their eyes will reflect back on you, which will cause you to feel good about yourself.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

Total your scores for the 11 questions above, write them down, then go to the Self Love Test – Part 2 and answer those questions. Then total your two scores together.