Parents Test

Too often, romance gets ignored when the children arrive: Too tired, too busy, no privacy.

That’s a recipe for disaster because without romance, and lots of physical affection, the love usually dies.

To keep your relationship loving and strong, you need to make romance and physical affection a priority. “Not in front of the kids,” you may say. But why not model for your children what a healthy relationship looks like? That’s a gift that will serve them their entire lives.

Take this test and see what needs to be worked on.  I recommend you each take the test, compare your answers, then work together to insure that you your love and fulfillment grows.

Directions: Answer the following 10 questions by filling in the answer most consistent with your point of view. At the end, total up your score.

Possible answers:

9 – 7 = definitely true

6 – 4 = moderately true

3 – 1 = not at all true

1) My partner and I go on a date without the kids at least once a week.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

2) My partner and I make love at least once a week.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

3) My partner and I touch and kiss in front of the kids.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

4) My partner and I sleep naked or in something that is attractive to each other.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

5) My partner and I go away for weekends away from the kids at least every few months.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

6) My partner and I flirt and tease even if the kids are around.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

7) I make my partner feel important to me, no matter how demanding the children might be.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

8) When my partner and I spend time alone we make a point not to talk about the kids too much.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

9) In front of the kids, my partner and I are a committed unit who respects each other.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

10) My partner and I let our children know how much we love each other.

definitely true 9 8 7
moderately true 6 5 4
not at all true 3 2 1

Scoring

70 – 90

The higher you score, the more solid is your love and your relationship.What a beautiful gift for your children.

40 – 60

If you score in the mid-range, you would do well to make romance and physical affection more of a priority so your love stays alive and your relationship vibrant.

0 – 30

If you score in this range, you are too focused on the kids and have put the relationship on the back burner or the love you once had is weak. If you want to save your marriage, keep your family intact, and be a model of a loving relationship for your children, simply do more of the things listed above.

One of the benefits in taking a test like this is that you become aware of things you might not have noticed before. You can’t really select things to improve if you aren’t aware of what you’d like to change. Now, hopefully, you do.

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