Are You Miserable Because You Don’t Trust Him?

sad-woman3What if he’s done something that has caused you to lose trust in him? Even if it isn’t an affair, there can be a variety of things that can cause you to be miserable with worry.

I’ve gone through this myself and the following is what worked for me.

What I found is that I had to focus on my own well-being. When we’re in fear, all our systems are at jeopardy. Our immune system, our health, our sleep, our happiness, our ability to focus. Ask yourself what the greatest fear is. Is it breaking up, is it humiliation, is it feeling unworthy, what are you afraid of? Then tell yourself, “That’s the worst thing that can happen, so for now, for my own well-being, I choose to trust.” Then, whenever you catch yourself worrying, say that mantra back to yourself.

This will help you relax and get back to being a happy woman, and will help you enjoy your relationship. Then, it will empower you to know that if the ‘worst thing happens,’ you’re strong enough to let go and move on.

Give it a try and see what happens…

Is It Okay That He Cheated On Her?

AngryWoman200pxI got this joke from a friend this morning and had to share it with you. Not so much because it’s funny, but more that it’s kind of sad. Men want a woman who is happy, enjoys life, and appreciates her man, especially his efforts to make her happy. Is that asking too much? I don’t think so.

Here’s the joke:

The wife came home early and found her husband in their bedroom making love to a very attractive young woman.

And she was upset. “You are a disrespectful pig!” she cried. “How dare you do this to me — a faithful wife, the mother of your children! I’m leaving you. I want a divorce right away!”

And the husband replied, “Hang on just a minute love, so at least I can tell you what happened.”

“Go ahead,” she sobbed, “but they’ll be the last words you’ll say to me!”

And the husband began — “Well, I was getting into the car to drive home, and this young lady here asked me for a lift. She looked so down and out and defenseless that I took pity on her and let her into the car.

“I noticed that she was very thin, not well dressed and very dirty. She told me that she hadn’t eaten for three days.

“So, in my compassion, I brought her home and warmed up the enchiladas I made for you last night, the ones you wouldn’t eat because you’re afraid you’ll put on weight. The poor thing devoured them in moments.

“Since she needed a good clean-up, I suggested a shower, and while she was doing that, I noticed her clothes were dirty and full of holes, so I threw them away.

“Then, as she needed clothes, I gave her the designer jeans that you have had for a few years, but don’t wear because you say they are too tight.

“I also gave her the underwear that was your anniversary present, which you don’t wear because I don’t have good taste.

“I found the sexy blouse my sister gave you for Christmas that you don’t wear just to annoy her, and I also donated those boots you bought at the expensive boutique and don’t wear because someone at work has a pair the same.”

The husband took a quick breath and continued – “She was so grateful for my understanding and help that as I walked her to the door, she turned to me with tears in her eyes and said, “Please …… Do you have anything else that your wife doesn’t use?”

Turn your marriage or relationship around and get him to be crazy-in-love with you–so cheating is a whole lot less likely–with the power of Feminine Grace and the 12 Secrets about men that I reveal in Men Made Easy.

Skinny Dipping

LaughterBecause I enjoy humor so much and am such an advocate of the importance of laughter for your love life and your physical and mental health, it just dawned on me that I should share favorite jokes here.

Most men relate through humor, so I recommend you select a few jokes, practice in front of a mirror, and then share them with your honey or that new guy you’re going to see this weekend. So here’s my first of many jokes and fun finds:

Skinny Dipping

An elderly man in Louisiana had owned a large farm for several years.

He had a large pond in the back. It was properly shaped for swimming, so he fixed  it up nice with picnic tables, horseshoe courts, and some apple and peach trees.

One evening the old farmer decided to go down to the pond, as he hadn’t been there for a while and look it over.

He grabbed a five-gallon bucket to bring back some fruit.

As he neared the pond, he heard voices shouting and laughing with glee.

As he came closer, he saw it was a bunch of young women skinny-dipping in his pond.

He made the women aware of his presence, and they all went to the deep end.

One of the women shouted to him, ‘we’re not coming out until you leave!’

The old man frowned, ‘I didn’t come down here to watch you ladies swim naked or make you get out of  the pond naked.’

Holding the bucket up, he said, ‘I’m here to feed the alligator…’

Some old men can still think fast.