Nothing Matters Without Love

Yes, love is what matters. And I’m not just talking about romantic love. Love, just love. Love for yourself, love for your pet, your pet’s love for you, love for the planet, love for all those people out there who are suffering and struggling for whatever reason.

Just love.

Watch this video all the way through and you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about.

Whatever you think is important, money, success, that new car, that new whatever…none of it matters. Not really, because those things aren’t what makes you happy.

I know, you’ve heard that a bazillion times before. But trust me, I’ve been rich, and I’ve been on the edge of wondering if I was going to be able to pay the rent.

The big lesson I’ve learned from living in the ‘ups’ and the ‘downs,’ is that the less I have, the happier I am, and the happier I am, the less I want.

The ‘good’ life is about the quality of your relationships. No, no, no…not how many friends you have. I’m talking about an authentic, deep, heart-to-heart connection.

How many of those do you enjoy? How many people have seen deep into your soul? And what’s my point? Well, my point is THAT is where love takes root.

Nope, it’s not the flutters in your belly or nether regions. No, it’s not that you think about them night and day, to the point that you can barely get anything done.

Love begins its journey of blossoming in those moments when you share your true self with someone.

And I’m not talking about that ‘amazing’ conversation you had with that new person when you discovered you like the same movies, the same books, and the same music.

When you think love is the flutters, the sexual need, the thinking about, the shared interests, it’s not. Not until you share your heart and soul with someone, and they share theirs. And in that sharing, you really see each other, maybe for the first time after knowing each other for years.

That is what love is.

A Free Tool You Might Like

KOFGTitleImageHave you looked at all the free information I offer on this website? If not, you might especially want to look at the free online workshops.

I got an email today from a woman who said she had gotten a lot of value out of the Five Facets Of Feminine Grace workshop and that it helped her get through some hard times.

I lot of what keeps you from not being as happy as you’d like is what I call your Core Wounding. Those are the things that happened to you early in your life, and caused you believe falsehoods about yourself.

Those beliefs often cause you to react to people and situations at an unconscious level, and cause you to make a mess of your life and your relationships.

The Feminine Grace workshop helps you clear away those false beliefs. When you do that, you discover the beautiful, bright light that you are and that allows you to enjoy life the way you’ve always wanted.

I invite you to take a little journey through the twelve classes and discover what is really true about you. That you are indeed beautiful, worthy of love, and deserve to be cherished.

What To Do When Your Feelings Get Hurt

needy-womenYesterday I heard two little kids fighting, one yelling at the other, “You hurt my feelings.” Little kids are still learning how to negotiate life. So it’s reasonable that they would blame someone else for how they feel. But for us adults, it’s important that we understand that we are completely in charge of how we respond to what others do and say to us.

So no one can hurt your feelings. No one can make you angry. No one can make you cry (unless they use physical force.) Each of us is responsible for how we react and respond to others. Part of that responsibility is how to communicate with your husband or boyfriend when they cross the line and treat you with a lack of love or respect.

Sometimes, if you don’t speak up, he doesn’t know that what he did or said upset you. So first, it’s important to communicate what’s going on. But if you blame or accuse, then communication won’t occur. Communication only happens when the person you’re speaking to understands what you’re saying. If they are defensive, they’re focused on protecting themselves, and coming up with something to say back. This is commonly referred to as a fight.

So how do you handle this kind of communication? First, let him know how what he said made you feel. Let him know you take responsibility for how you reacted, but that what he said didn’t feel good. It’s possible that he didn’t know you felt that way. Be sure you don’t blame or accuse, but ask him how this might be handled in the future. Together, come up with a loving, playful, or humorous way of letting him know he did or said something that didn’t feel good.

Real love can only happen when you both keep your hearts open to each other. Clear and loving communication will take you a long way toward making sure love grows, instead of drying up.

No Room In Your Heart

PeopleOfTheWorldEverything I do, everything I say, everything I write is about bringing more love into the world.

Except for those times when I fall into a pity pot. We all have those moments, don’t we?

If you have read any of my other posts, you know I’m all about love and happiness.

But today, I want to talk about hate. (see video below — it is truly profound)

Is there any hate in your heart? I mean any. Take a look in there. I’ll wait.

Did you find some?

Well, let me tell you something about hate. That little (or big) pocket of hate that’s sitting inside you, it’s killing you.

How, you may ask.

It does so in a variety of ways.

One way is that it festers, like a virus, and has the power to make you sick, very sick, like cancer sick.

Every tiny sliver of hate that you hold within you destroys 100 times that amount of love that you might otherwise enjoy.

Yes, of course, I’m making up that number. But only to make a point. And I don’t think I’m that far off.

Think about it, if you hate your parent, or your ex, or that girlfriend who trampled on your feelings, or an entire group of people (who, by the way, you don’t know) that hate takes up space in your heart. But worse than that, it radiates out into every aspect of your life.

You’re probably not aware of it, but it’s doing it’s nasty work without you having to do a thing.

Just sits there and festers.

That hate will keep you from giving your whole heart to love.

Love for your family, your friends, your lover, and especially, your self.

It also keeps you from loving the planet, loving humankind, loving all life forms.

I beg you, for your own good and the good of the world, let go of the hate. It serves no one and only damages you.

Watch this video and see how built-in hatred transforms these people. It’s like watching real magic happen, and it’s beautiful.

Next, pass this video on to everyone you know, because letting go of hate has the power to transform the world.

Which One Are You?

She Tells Her Grandma That She’s Just Been Cheated On So Grandma Tells Her To Do This

Grandmother talking to grandmother

Grandmother talking to grown granddaughter

This is a good lesson for all of us, no matter what stage of life you’re in. You’ll see what I mean.

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her – her husband had cheated on her, and she was devastated. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as soon as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and put each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second eggs, and in the last ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She then put the carrots, eggs, and coffee in separate bowls.

Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, “Tell me what you see.”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

Her grandmother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The grandmother then asked the granddaughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, the grandmother asked the granddaughter to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked, “What does it mean, grandmother?”

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they had been in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity? Do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee beans? The ground coffee beans changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?

How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying, and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling, and everyone around you is crying.

May we all be like the COFFEE.

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