Another Way To Make Magic

Maybe I harp on it but if you want to purposefully make love happen, whether you’re looking for Mr. Right or been married for 30 years, if you focus on all the ways you can make magic, it allows you to get out of your own way so it just happens.

Here’s a very short video to remind you of a very simple way to make magic pretty much any time you want:

Now, stop what you’re doing and go outside. Find some nature. It’s everywhere, day or night, and feel the magic.

Helping you make magic, everywhere you go,

Kara Oh, Your Relationship Guide

A Man and His Boots

LaughterBert always wanted a pair of authentic cowboy boots, so seeing some on sale, he bought them and wore them home.

Walking proudly, he sauntered into the kitchen and said to his wife, “Notice anything different about me?”

Margaret looked him over. “Nope.”

Frustrated, Bert stormed off into the bathroom, undressed and walked back into the kitchen completely naked except for the boots.

Again he asked Margaret, a little louder this time, “Notice anything different NOW?”

Margaret looked up and said in her best deadpan, “Bert, what’s different? It’s hanging down today, it was hanging down yesterday, it’ll be hanging down again tomorrow.”

Furious, Bert yelled, “AND DO YOU KNOW WHY IT’S HANGING DOWN, MARGARET?”

“Nope. Not a clue”, she replied.

“IT’S HANGING DOWN, BECAUSE IT’S LOOKING AT MY NEW BOOTS!!!!”

Without missing a beat Margaret replied, “Shoulda bought a hat, Bert. Shoulda bought a hat.”

NOTE: This joke made me laugh out loud, so I had to share it with you. BUT…I  must say that this is also a lesson in how not to treat your husband or boyfriend. The problem is that our society enjoys making men look stupid. When a woman sees her man as a doofus (jerk), it’s the beginning of the end. Maybe not the end of the relationship, but certainly the end of the kind of love and romance that makes your hearts sing. But the joke is still funny.

Helping you make magic, everywhere you go,

Kara Oh, Your Relationship Guide

When Does Older Mean More Beautiful?

SusanSarandonImage: Susan Sarandon at 66.

Because we live in a youth focused society, women worry about what happens when they age. I watched a movie last night called Sessions.

Helen Hunt stars in it and does an amazing job. She is many times completely naked, with full frontal nudity. Her body is womanly, trim, and soft, like the bodies of women painted and sculpted during the Renaissance.

I’ve always admired Helen Hunt because she’s always seemed so comfortable in her own skin. So it was a surprise to see that she’d had obvious work done on her face. I know it’s possible to have plastic surgery to brighten a woman’s face because one of my dearest friends did that and you absolutely cannot tell.

In my opinion, when you can tell immediately that someone has had work done, and especially when it’s screaming at you, like the tragic facelifts of most of these celebrities, it is telling the world that you are REALLY unhappy with the thought of getting older.

The kind of beauty that matters, and gets better with age, comes from the inside, not from a surgeon’s knife. Here’s a video that was inspired by a quote by Susan Sarandon, who is still gorgeous today:

Helping you make magic, everywhere you go,

Kara Oh, Your Relationship Guide

 

Is This Why Your Relationship Crashed and Burned?

CoupleIgnoringEachOtherSmHave you ever wondered why your past relationships failed, even when they started out so great?

Or are you worried about the relationship you’re in right now? Maybe you’re suffering from Lazybutt Love.

Check my article, “Is the Problem Lazybutt Love,” at YourTango.com and see if that’s what’s going on and what you can do to turn things around.

Image credit: www.guardian.co.uk

As always…helping you make magic, everywhere you go,

Kara Oh, Your Relationship Guide

How Sick is Abercrombie & Fitch

Okay, this is a two-sided sword for me. On the one hand, I’m a cheerleader for eating well. You can glow with inner beauty if you put crap in your body. And pretty much all processed food is crap.

You wouldn’t put crap in your car gas tank so why on earth would you put crap into your precious, magical body? Once in a while, sure, go for it. But way too many people, especially young, still-growing young people are killing themselves slowly. Sorry but that’s how I feel.

It breaks my heart to see what’s happening. And I’m not just talking about obesity. So, there’s my rant. Now, watch what Ellen D. has to say on this crazy thing that the CEO of Abercrombie & Fitch had to say:

Helping you make magic, everywhere you go,

Kara Oh, Your Relationship Guide

The Wedding Test

LaughterI was a very happy man. My wonderful girlfriend and I had been dating for over a year, and so we decided to get married. There was only one little thing bothering me…It was her beautiful younger sister.

My prospective sister-in-law was twenty-two, wore very tight miniskirts, and generally was bra-less. She would regularly bend down when she was near me, and I always got more than a nice view. It had to be deliberate. Because she never did it when she was near anyone else.

One day her ‘little’ sister called and asked me to come over to check the wedding invitations. She was alone when I arrived, and she whispered to me that she had feelings
and desires for me that she couldn’t overcome. She told me that she wanted me just once before I got married and committed my life to her sister.

Well, I was in total shock, and couldn’t say a word… She said, ‘I’m going upstairs to my bedroom, and if you want one last wild fling, just come up and get me.’

PeopleClappingI was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs. I stood there for a moment, then turned and made a beeline straight to the front door. I opened the door, and headed straight towards my car.

Lord… and behold, my entire future family was standing outside, all clapping!

With tears in his eyes, my father-in-law hugged me and said, ‘We are very happy that you have passed our little test. We couldn’t ask for a better man for our daughter.
Welcome to the family.’

And the moral of this story is:

Always keep your condoms in your car

Can You Feel Feminine With No Breasts?

AngelinaBreastsAngelina Jolie has been a big news item in the past few days. And rightfully so. To have both breasts removed, and next, her ovaries, is not the usual way we hear of women doing things to prevent cancer.

But before I talk about what it means as a woman, let me say that her case is fairly unusual “because more than 99% of women do not have BRCA1 — or BRCA2, for that matter.”

So hopefully, women will not begin to think this is something they should do to prevent breast cancer. Without the presence of BRCA1, the best prevention for all disease is to eat well (and I mean EXTREMELY well), exercise regularly, avoid stress, and be happy.

Now I want to talk about the self-image and emotional perspective of what Angelina Jolie has brought to the forefront of thinking. Can a woman who has had her breasts removed still feel like a woman?

I have two friends who have had double mastectomies. One for the very same reason Ms. Jolie did it, and the other because she had cancer. So this is a topic that is near and dear because I care about these women and they’ve confided in me about what it’s meant to them.

Feminine Grace happens on the inside and then shows up as an outer glow that can only come from loving oneself. Without that, it doesn’t matter what a woman looks like.

We’ve all seen beautiful women who are obviously insecure. It shows in their posture, their eyes, and the inability to relax, be themselves, and shine with happiness.

We don’t know for sure, but it seems fairly obvious that Angelina Jolie is a woman who knows who she is, is confident and comfortable in her own skin. Her breasts are not how she identifies her “womanness.” It’s more about who she is and how she is in the world.

My heart work during my time on this planet is to help women realize that their happiness and their ability to give and receive love are directly proportional to their depth of self-love. To facilitate self-love in women is why I teach “The Five Facets Of Feminine Grace.” Without self-love, life cannot be lived as fully as you would like.

When you love yourself, truly and deeply, without self-doubt, life becomes a glorious adventure.

Helping you make magic, everywhere you go,

Kara Oh, Your Relationship Guide

 

“Feminine Grace is the portal to everything you want.”

How Do You Know If It’s Love…Or ‘Not Love’?

SadWomanOnChairRtFacing250wIf you’ve ever wished you had a litmus test to determine if you’re in love or if he loves you, you’ll find the article I posted at YourTango.com to be an eye opener.

Too often I coach women with relationship issues that should not be about how to fix the relationship, but rather, how to get out of it.

No woman should be with a man who doesn’t enhance her life. It’s not good for her, not good for him, and certainly not good for children if there is animosity between their parents.

But, and here’s something to look at, the bigger question is, if you answer yes to the negative statements in my YourTango.com article, “What is going on inside of you that you stay with a man who treats you that way?”

That’s what is unearthed in The Five Facets Of Feminine Grace. This workshop will help you love yourself so you will not tolerate disrespect, in any way, because you care too much about yourself.

Helping you make magic, everywhere you go,

Kara Oh, Your Relationship Guide

When You ‘HAVE’ To Spend Time With an Energy Vampire

BubbleOfLove2There are times when you have no choice, you have to spend time with what I call, an Energy Vampire.

Maybe it’s your mother or father, or someone at work, or your best friend’s friend. Ugh!

When you have to spend time with someone who is toxic, an effective way to endure is to imagine a bubble of love around you–kind of like Maxwell Smart’s ‘Cone Of Silence’–unable to be pierced, protecting your energy from the Energy Vampire.

I call them Energy Vampires because, when you ‘LET’ them trigger you, or pull you down to their level, your energy has been sucked, pure and simple. Don’t give them that power. Take charge of your life. If you don’t, others will.

Any time you allow someone to trigger you (that means push your buttons) you have handed over your power to them and they have literally sucked your energy from you.

One of the primary outcomes of my workshop, The Five Facets Of Feminine Grace, is to remove those buttons so they can no longer get pushed, or at least, less and less often.

Take your power, use it for good…protect yourself from the Energy Vampires with their toxic, negative, blaming, hurtful perspectives on life.

Helping you make magic, everywhere you go,

Kara Oh, Your Relationship Guide