Years ago I had a man in one of my workshops that needed private coaching. He was one of those types of people who try too hard. They try to be witty, charming, funny, and sociable, but they only make people uncomfortable. He was that kind of man.
My heart went out to him because I knew his awkwardness came from severe insecurity. He was having difficulty with one of the deeper meditations that I had led the group through. In this meditation I asked them to go to their Child-Self, along with their Inner Wise Being, and give that child whatever it needed, depending on what had caused them to feel like they were not lovable, or not enough in some way. But he was not able to follow my guidance, even though he hadn’t had any difficulty in earlier meditations.
Because it was such an essential step in the transformational potential available to the workshop attendees, I offered to do a private session with him. In my office, with just the two of us, I guided him into a meditative state. In questioning him, he admitted he couldn’t do this process because his Child-Self wasn’t lovable, because he the adult man was not lovable.
I did my best to help him see that he was, but he was adamant and would not accept what I knew to be true. Finally, it had an inspiration.
I asked him to picture himself walking along a sidewalk. Then I asked him to see a baby laying on the sidewalk. I asked him what he wanted to do. He said, “I’m picking him up.” I asked him if that baby was lovable and he said, “Yes, of course.”
Then I asked him to look into the eyes of that baby, to really see him. Then I told him, “That lovable baby is you.” At that point he started sobbing because he could finally feel it and accept that it was true.
After that, he made amazing leaps forward and became a lovely man to be around.
If there is ever a time when you do not feel lovable, or you question your worthiness to be loved, remember this man. Watching him transform over the next few weeks was a beautiful miracle. You are a miracle as well. There is nothing…nothing getting in the way of you loving and being loved…other than you. Be the miracle you are.
Helping you discover the magic of Real Love,