Does He Say He No Longer Loves You?

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An Amazing Movement Of Love

I stumbled upon the video below and was really touched by what is going on around the world.

There is a movement of love happening in all arenas of human interaction.

And it’s going on everywhere.

The book that describes the world-wide movement is:

It feels like only bad things are going on, but that’s because the ‘big bad things’ get the attention of the media. But I know many who have started movements of all kinds that are having a wonderfully positive influence on people, non-human life forms, and the environment.

It’s a beautiful thing. I invite you to take time to visit Paul Hawken’s website to learn more and there are several videos on YouTube.

We owe it to our children and their children to make an effort every day, in every way possible.

With love for everything that this glorious planet stands for,


Has Your Ability To Experience Love Evolved?

mannice16Do you remember when you first started thinking about boys?

Do you remember the first time you were in love?

How about the second and third?

What about the first time (or possibly the only time) you got married? How was it to love and be loved then?

How much drama was there? How much joy? How much laughter? How much sex?

And now, how about today?

Are you more forgiving, more able to look beyond what, in the past, irritated you?

Are you easier to love?

If your ability to experience love has evolved, then guess what? That means you have evolved as a person.

This is a good thing because if you are not evolving – which means growing as a person – then you are going backwards.

You might argue that you are staying the same. But I say backwards because even though your heart, soul, and psyche are at a stand-still, the time you have on this planet is still hurtling you toward the end of your days, the time you have left that you get to be you.

Something to think about…

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The Greatest Truth…Maybe Ever

When it comes right down to it, there are only a few things that really matter. Truly!

  1. Being kind, considerate and loving. Not to just those you know and care about, by as the person you are, truly, deep down in the core of your being.
  2. Respecting and honoring the gift of life that you have been given by taking good care of yourself. As you look around, you can see that few people do.
  3. Respecting and honoring the things that make you, as a human being, unique amidst all the life forms on this glorious, magical planet: Your mind, your spiritual self, your creative self, and your ability to care.
  4. And…caring for this planet, the one thing that supports all life, yours included.

This video is should be seen by everyone, and watched at least once a month, just as a reminder of what really matters:


We owe it to our children, and their children to share this video with everyone you know. It touches each and every one of us, and every life form on the planet.

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Over Thinking Is As Bad As Under Thinking it comes to relationships, you can’t always trust your heart.

That’s because sometimes, when you think it’s talking to you, it’s really your brain trying to influence you.

So how do you know when it’s doing that?

Well, when you try to talk yourself into something that has to do with your relationship, you often go by what’s logical or proper, or what your parents want you to do. (Below is are a couple of tests to help you make smarter decisions.)

If you don’t think it through,  you might end up doing something that you’re sorry about later. The sad thing is when that kind of choice changes the course of your life.

Actually, it’s that kind of thinking that messes us up in other ways as well.

Like trying to stick to a healthier way of eating, or sticking with your workout plan.

Or having sex with someone you just met. Which basically means, you’ve just had sex with a total stranger.

Yikes! What were you thinking?

Well, you weren’t. That’s when under thinking enters the arena.

We (as in all us humans) do some pretty dumb things because we didn’t think it through.

Like, what might the consequences be if we have sex with a stranger (or our best friend’s boyfriend or husband),

or buy those $300 shoes that we don’t need and will put our bank account on red alert.

If you have to talk yourself into doing something that your heart isn’t wanting you to do…think it through.

Maybe it’s actually a good idea, but maybe it’s not. You won’t know until you give it a good once over.

If you’re considering doing something that is causing your gut to jump up and down trying to get your attention, stop for just a moment…and think it through.

Yes, we live in a society of instant gratification. But some things need a little bit of time to thinkitthrough.

Here are a couple of ways to help you think things through:

  1. I learned this from Tony Robbins many years ago. Do what he calls the ‘Rocking Chair Test.’ You have a choice or decision to make. Imagine yourself sitting on your porch when you’re 90 years old. You look back on your life and notice how you fee about having made the choice or decision. Are you happy with your choice, or not?
  2. I went to a workshop on developing organizational skills and they called this a Ben Franklin. Take a piece of paper. Draw a line down the middle, top to bottom. On the left write the pros, on the right, the cons. Go away for a couple of hours. Come back and weigh each item on your list, including both sides. It might be obvious what choice you should make. But if not, look at each item and ask yourself if you’re willing to live with each. That will help you make a smarter decision.

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Do These Make You Unhappy?

Sad_Woman1Does it seem like your emotions are designed to make you unhappy?

Do you think that’s their primary purpose?

Funny how emotions are blamed when you react in ways that make you miserable. You’re sad, angry, anxious, worrying… “Stop being emotional,” they tell you.

But if you’re happy, excited, or silly, no one is going to tell you to stop being emotional.

So let’s get this one out of the way. Your emotions are there for no other purpose then to help you learn.

When you’re feeling ‘poopy’ there will be a lesson in that pile, waiting for you to dig it up.

If you’re feeling great, it’s a reward for doing life right.

If you were happy most of the time – meaning your are in the habit of being happy – you aren’t being called on very often to ‘step into the classroom of life.’ You’re just happy. And that’s wonderful.

But when you’re ‘put out in the hall to think about what you’ve done,’ that’s when you have the opportunity to get the benefit of learning from what’s happened.

Enjoy the ups and when there’s the occasional down, remember it’s there to teach you something.

But you have to be willing to be a student. A drop out isn’t living life, they’re simply coasting, waiting for the day they die. Harsh? Maybe. But it’s the truth. Don’t just coast through life, relish it, wring every bit of living out of every moment.

Happiness is definitely worth the effort,


These 3 T’s Will Keep You On His Mind

Young couple having fun in the kitchenDo you want him to be thinking about you throughout the day?

Do you want him to be excited to see you as soon as he can?

Do you want him to cringe at the thought of ever losing you?

What you need to do is sprinkle a generous amount of the 3 T’s into your relationship.

Caveat: If he’s a jerk, disrespectful, or generally an a-hole, then this advice is not for you. You’ll only get more of the same bad behavior. My advice is ALWAYS and ONLY for men who are generally decent, but need a little coaxing to wake up and be the man who you fell in love with…however long ago.

1) Tease

De’fun‘ition: To be playful to either lighten the mood or to get him to do something.

Life is much more enjoyable for you and for him when you’re in a playful mood. So be a joy to be around. And when you want him to do something, if you make your request in a playful way, you’ll have a much better chance of getting what you want. And if he can’t do it, remember to see things from his perspective so you stay in a good mood. He’ll be thinking about you because he’ll associate feeling good with you.

2) Tempt

De’fun’ition: To remind him of future goodies.

What’s his favorite thing? Food, your black garter belt, going out with the boys on Thursday night? Let him know what’s waiting for him and he’ll think you’re a goddess. And if it’s a night out with his buddies, he’ll brag about you, and be excited to get back to you.

3) Tantalize

De’fun’ition: To give him what he wants most, in the sexiest way possible.

Even if his favorite thing is a juicy steak, give it to him in whatever way will cause him to not think, but KNOW you’re the most amazing woman on the planet.

I’m often maligned for teaching women to do the old fashioned thing of catering to his needs. HEAR THIS!!! My advice is ALWAYS and ONLY about helping you get what YOU want. But to do that, you BOTH need to feel like winners. If you think you can bitch your way to getting him to behave, neither of you will be happy and eventually, one of you will leave.


Happiness comes to those who work at it,


This Is How To ‘Rate’ Your Love

LoveFramedReflectionHow do you know if the love you experience is as good as it can be?

How are you to know why you are having difficulty?

Or why it is so easy?

And what causes it to be good one day, and messy the next?

Easy, look inside.

If you are busy blaming your lover for something they have or have not done, in what way are you blaming yourself?

If you are feeling grateful that you have this person in your life, that you love each other so much, in what ways are you grateful for yourself…who you are and how you’re showing up in the world?

When you look into their eyes and not only see…but FEEL their love, what do you see when you look within?

ALL that goes on in your relationship, be it good or bad, can always be found inside your own heart, mind, spirit and psyche. Your inner regions are a road map to where you want to go. The hills, valleys, detours and smooth sailing are all a part of who you are.


Happiness is yours when you are ready for it,


Who’s Winning: Beavers or Love?

Beaver2How’s your love life going lately? Do you have some beavers in your life that are messing with…well, everything?

See, if you don’t feel good, you can’t feel love. I mean it. For love to be ‘real’ you have to be able to ‘feel’ it. Whether you’re giving love or receiving it, it’s just a word if you can’t feel it.

Love is an emotion. And just like any emotion, it you aren’t feeling it in your body, it’s just an idea, a word in your head. Think about it. Say, “I’m really angry.” But if you aren’t actually angry when you say it, it’s just a word.

Same with love. Say, “I love you.” If you don’t feel it when you say it, again, it’s just a word.

So what’s this got to do with beavers? Well, there are a bunch of things that go on in our lives that keep us from being able to feel alive…to ‘feel life.’ Feeling things like gratitude, compassion, happiness, and love.

Being able to feel ‘life’ means your energy is flowing. But what if you’re not feeling great. Maybe yesterday you ate a big plate of pasta and today, you’re constipated. That’s not like being sick in bed, but you certainly aren’t feeling great. Can you really ‘feel’ love if you’re constipated?

Or maybe you’re feeling overwhelmed with work, or bills, or your kid’s grades. Just like a beaver who has stopped the flow of a stream with his ingenious dam, there are lots of things that can cause your flow of energy to be damned.

Whether it’s constipation or that bill you forgot to pay, your ability to truly enjoy life, which means happiness and love, has been ‘beavered.’ Any time there’s a dam holding back your flow of energy, you’re going to miss out on the goodies of life.

So here’s an assignment: Is there a dam that you need to clear out? Do you need to eat better, drink less, forgive, add gratitude, or pay that bill? do you need to start loving yourself? Once you know what’s getting in the way of you experiencing life fully, then you can do something about it.

Beavers are cute, but who who needs them messing with your life?


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What If You Could Choose?

HappinessButOneChoiceDo you ever feel like your life is being run by someone else? Like you are not in charge of your thoughts, or even what you say? In a way, there’s some truth to that.

That’s because much of who you think you are, as the adult you see in the mirror, is actually the little girl you once were.

Yep, she’s in charge, way too much of the time. The problem is, until you’re aware of what she’s doing, you feel like you don’t have a choice in how you are.

Think about this: If the way you respond to, say your husband or boyfriend, is actually being driven by a scared little girl who doesn’t feel loved, do you think that might impact your relationship?

When you discover what she’s doing, and why, then you can do something about it. In one of the self-guided workshops I offer in the Happy School (a.k.a. My Inner Circle), you are guided to discover exactly what she’s been up to, and what she needs so she doesn’t continue to screw with your life.

She doesn’t mean to harm you, she’s just doing what a two, or three, or four-year-old thinks she needs to do to get her needs met. And what if she’s scared?

If unraveling this kind of mystery about yourself sounds interesting, it is. That’s why I say the journey of self-discover is the most fascinating you’ll ever take.

I’ve been around the world, visiting places like Papua New Guinea, living in Bali, walking through the Amazon rain forest, and watching horrified as an angry elephant attempted to knock over the car in front of ours. But with all that, I still say, self-discovery is more fascinating.

The beautiful thing about this journey is with each discovery, you get one step closer to becoming the person you were meant to be…filled with love and joy.

So I invite you to join me on this adventure of the heart, spirit, mind, and soul. With each new awareness about who you are, you will learn to love yourself a little bit more.

And here’s the really big thing, your self-love leads to ever-deepening love with your husband, boyfriend, or, if you’re still looking, with that one special man when you find him. Self-awareness begets self-love, which begets more of all the other kinds of love…even a deeper appreciation and gratitude for the beauty of a day.


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