I’m assuming you’re looking for Mr. Right and want to be noticed by a man who will be intrigued enough to want to get to know you.
But you must remember this about men: First and foremost, they are visual. This is probably not new to you. And you may not like it. But it’s a fact and if you’re going to find your soulmate, then you need to give him the opportunity to notice you in all the right ways.
So, here are 5 things I learned, after interviewing hundreds of men for my book, Men Made Easy (now available for free):
1. Queenly Posture
When I interview men for my research, I always ask what they find attractive in a woman. You would be surprised how often good posture is on their list.
If you think Queenly Posture, it will help remind you to stand up straight. Queenly posture means you stand tall, proud of who you are, with your shoulders back, and a nice arch in your back. When I was in high school, my P.E. teacher used to say, “Grapefruits Up!” Which meant stick our your breasts, and your posture automatically improves.
Another thing that standing tall does is open your heart energy, and your energy is the one thing that causes a man to be intrigued, and eventually, fall in love with you. It’s also how he stays in love, but that’s for another article.
2. Movie Star Smile
You’ve probably been told that men are attracted to a woman’s smile. That’s true, but it goes much deeper than that.
First, your smile must come from deep within your spirit and soul. Why? Because then it’s a reflection of who you are as a woman, not just something you plaster on your face. When a woman loves herself, her smile comes from that place, and offers a view into her true authentic self.
Obvious self love causes your energy to shine and sparkle. And what man can resist that?
3. Sparkling Self-Assurance
I use the term self-assurance rather than self-confidence because I want to make a distinction between the two. All too often, self-confidence is interpreted as meaning strong, powerful, capable, proud, accomplished, never intimidated by anyone or anything.
Those are all good qualities and worthy goals. But when it comes to being attractive to men, that kind of confidence can feel like you’re competing with men to be ‘the better man.’ That’s a huge turn-off for men.
Self-assurance is more about feeling comfortable in your own skin, as they say. Feeling good about who you are, with a soft, feminine energy. More of a quiet confidence that comes from being happy about who you are. This kind of self-assurance comes from true self-love.
Men find this totally intriguing because insecurity is a turn-off, unless he’s the kind of man who is drawn to women who are what I call, ‘broken birds.’ And that, I hope, is not the man you are searching for because he’s got some fairly good-sized issues he’s dealing with.
When you’re self-assured, your energy is attractive, just as honey is attractive to a bear.
4. A Joy-Filled Persona
When you’re happy and you know it, [you'll] clap your hands! Sorry, I couldn’t resist. But it actually makes my point. When you’re genuinely happy, you’ll exude the same kind of energy as when you feel like clapping your hands. That’s what joy says to everyone you meet.
And why is this attractive to men? Well, take apart the word and right there is ‘person.’ Happy, joyful people are more attractive to everyone. But for men, there’s something deeper going on.
One of the secrets I discovered about men–and reveal in Men Made Easy–is that a man is driven to make you happy. He can’t help himself. (You can learn why when you download the book.)
You’ve probably heard that men don’t like ‘high-maintenance’ women. Well, it’s true. When I was interviewing men and they were explaining why they left their wife or girlfriend, very often it was because, “I couldn’t make her happy.”
They explained that they eventually felt drained when their woman wasn’t happy, and had to leave for their own self-preservation. So when you’re a naturally happy woman, they know you’re not going to be a lot of work, that they can actually relax and enjoy you.
And once again, happiness, just like self-love and self-assurance shows up in your energy. And your energy is what he falls in love with, which, by the way, is not something he’s consciously aware of.
So your bright and shiny, beautiful and happy energy is your secret pathway into his heart.
5. Glowing Good Health
What the media has done to women is almost criminal, verging on emotional abuse.
I say this because the statistics on women’s and girl’s insecurities about their bodies is heart-breaking.
What the media has been doing is teaching women to be insecure so they will buy the ‘next new thing’ to fit whatever the latest craze is.
If you look at the models and women in film, you’ll see that most don’t seem happy, and certainly they don’t look healthy. Most men want a woman ‘with some meat on her bones.’
They tell me all the time that they find skinny quite unattractive.
And what about a woman who is overweight? It works if she is honestly happy with her body. But from what I’ve learned, even those who say they’re happy, aren’t. So that self-loathing shows up in a woman’s energy.
And I’m sorry, but being overweight will eventually give you a variety of health problems. Check this chart and see where you fit on the healthy body scale.
So what should you aim for? Healthy. That’s all. Eat right, don’t overdo anything from alcohol to ice cream, exercise regularly, have happy, positive thoughts, and you’ll appeal to a wide range of men.
Yes, most men have their ‘types,’ which you can’t do anything about. But if you do what’s required to have a healthy body, you’ll become more men’s perfect type. But only if you also incorporate all 5 of the above.
Doing everything I can to help you make magic, everywhere you go,