That’s because sometimes, when you think it’s talking to you, it’s really your brain trying to influence you.
So how do you know when it’s doing that?
Well, when you try to talk yourself into something that has to do with your relationship, you often go by what’s logical or proper, or what your parents want you to do. (Below is are a couple of tests to help you make smarter decisions.)
If you don’t think it through, you might end up doing something that you’re sorry about later. The sad thing is when that kind of choice changes the course of your life.
Actually, it’s that kind of thinking that messes us up in other ways as well.
Like trying to stick to a healthier way of eating, or sticking with your workout plan.
Or having sex with someone you just met. Which basically means, you’ve just had sex with a total stranger.
Yikes! What were you thinking?
Well, you weren’t. That’s when under thinking enters the arena.
We (as in all us humans) do some pretty dumb things because we didn’t think it through.
Like, what might the consequences be if we have sex with a stranger (or our best friend’s boyfriend or husband),
or buy those $300 shoes that we don’t need and will put our bank account on red alert.
If you have to talk yourself into doing something that your heart isn’t wanting you to do…think it through.
Maybe it’s actually a good idea, but maybe it’s not. You won’t know until you give it a good once over.
If you’re considering doing something that is causing your gut to jump up and down trying to get your attention, stop for just a moment…and think it through.
Yes, we live in a society of instant gratification. But some things need a little bit of time to think – it – through.
Here are a couple of ways to help you think things through:
- I learned this from Tony Robbins many years ago. Do what he calls the ‘Rocking Chair Test.’ You have a choice or decision to make. Imagine yourself sitting on your porch when you’re 90 years old. You look back on your life and notice how you fee about having made the choice or decision. Are you happy with your choice, or not?
- I went to a workshop on developing organizational skills and they called this a Ben Franklin. Take a piece of paper. Draw a line down the middle, top to bottom. On the left write the pros, on the right, the cons. Go away for a couple of hours. Come back and weigh each item on your list, including both sides. It might be obvious what choice you should make. But if not, look at each item and ask yourself if you’re willing to live with each. That will help you make a smarter decision.
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