Now for part three of 3 Reasons Staying ‘In Love’ Is Hard. Life. Who knew, when you decided to become a committed couple because your love was so big and grand, that something as mundane as your ‘life’ could dampen, or even destroy that love?
But it’s true. One of the biggest killers of love, romance and passion (besides kids, they’re the worst) is the to-do list. I don’t mean, ‘Pick up laundry,’ ‘Get oil changed,’ ‘Buy shampoo.’ No, I mean work, family obligations, working out, watching TV…all the ‘stuff’ that makes up your life.
Most of those things are what you have to do. What Tony Robbins calls the ‘musts.’ He talks about how you get certain things done because you must. Like paying the rent. But when an emergency comes along, somehow you handle it, even though you would have thought you couldn’t, before it became a ‘must.’
In the same way, so much of our daily lives are filled with ‘musts’ that seem to get done.
But what about your relationship? It was a must when you were falling in love, wasn’t it? That’s because it was of such significance…at them moment.
Paying the rent is a monthly ‘must’ that’s in your face all the time. But couples don’t think to put their relationship on the ‘to do’ list of musts because it’s not what society teaches. But I do!
If you don’t put your relationship and your partner on the ‘must’ list, it will always…always…always fall to the bottom of your priorities.
The crazy thing is, when there’s trouble, and it looks like your relationship might be destined to fall apart, then all of a sudden, it becomes a must. Actually, if you really value your relationship and your partner, it can end up being the first item of your ‘to do’ list because you can’t think of anything else.
When it’s bad enough, and you’re in fear of losing it, sometimes it’s difficult to even think about getting your work done.
So, since I’m all about giving you solutions, here’s one that has probably already occurred to you: Put it on the list now, RIGHT NOW, while things are still good.
In my book, Save Your Marriage Now!, I will give you the exact steps required to not only put your relationship on your ‘to do’ list, but how to do it so you turn everything around and fall in love again. Yes, this is another plug, because I believe in what I teach, and it’s only $2.99.)
It’s part of the RPL Technology Of Love. No matter how bad things have gotten, if you have even a smidgeon of love for each other, and wish you knew how to fix things, it is more than possible to not only save your relationship, but build a new relationship, kind of from the ground up, that will give you both the love, passion, romance, and joy that you crave. It Really Is Possible.
But unless you decide that your relationship is worthy of being on your ‘to do’ list, that it is a ‘must,’ NOTHING WILL CHANGE. In fact, ignoring the value of your relationship, and ignoring the value of your partner, will actually cause the love you share to completely wither and die.
So, here’s a challenge, get out your list, no matter where it is – iPhone, Blackberry, refrigerator, that side pocket in your purse – and put your relationship and your husband at the top.
Now that you’ve done that (you did do it, right?) think about what you need to do to enhance your love for each other. At the very least, take a page out of my book and think of a new, unique way to tell him you love and appreciate him. Then see how he responds.
Okay, you’re read this far. That tells me you’re interested in this topic. But are you really going to do something new and different than you have been? What I’ve learned over the years is that seldom does someone read advice, then go out and actually put that advice to work. Is that going to be you? Or are you going to be one of those fantastic exceptions and make your life better than it was yesterday?
Yes, just one step at a time is all it takes…then another. But not taking that first step will get you more of the same, or worse. What do you choose?
Hoping with all my heart that you will do these simple things I have suggested in this 3-part post. You can read part 1 here, and part 2 here.
Inspiring you to do ‘whatever it takes’ to be happy,