In preparation for my son’s wedding in Kauai one month from now, I’ve upped my 30 minute daily walks to an hour. Yes, I’m vain and want to lose some weight. But I think you’ll understand why it’s important when I explain.
My ex-husband and his wife will be there as well. We’re all going to be living in the same house and that means bathing suit time…that is if I want to enjoy the water. We’re all friends, but I want to look as good as I can. Just because…
There’s a point to all this, I promise.
So yesterday, there was a couple walking behind me. They were arguing about her owing him $5 for being wrong on how many blocks to where they had to turn off of State Street. Then she said, in a snippy tone of voice, “Well, you owe me $5 from yesterday.” Then they proceeded to argue. But not a fun, teasing kind of argument. They were getting upset with each other.
I really, really wanted to say, “If one of you is going to win this stupid argument, then that means the other is going to lose. And how is that going to help you be a happy, loving, bonded couple?”
Instead, I kept my mouth shut, like a good little girl.
But think about it, how often have you gotten into an argument over something that is only about needing / wanting to be right? It’s really a dumb thing to do. Unless, of course, that is your ultimate goal. If–and I hope this is true–your goal is to have an amazing relationship that makes your heart sing, then stop with the silly arguments.
Arguing is never going to resolve a situation, whether it’s on a stupid or serious topic. Never.
You should always end a conversation–meaning you actually communicated like two loving adults–if your intention is to continually improve your relationship. (Arguing is not a conversation, and certainly not communicating.)
A good relationship means you both feel like winners.
Got it? Good.
Now go make some love,