Romance is one of those words that gets tossed about a lot, but what does it mean, really? I suspect the each person has their own definition, experience, and expectations about romance.
The other thing to look at is how romance has changed over the years. At one time, romance was laying a jacket over mud so a lady could walk across without getting dirty. That’s probably not going to happen to too many women today.
The expectations thing really messes with people’s minds. If you have expectations about how another person is supposed to behave, and they don’t live up to those expectations, what’s going to happen? A great big pile of disappointment. Not a great way to build love and strengthen your bond.
How about you let go of your definitions and expectations. Here’s what I propose.
Take every little kindness, ever bit of thoughtfulness, and every show of affection as romance.
If he sends you a text out of the blue, just to connect…see that as romance.
If he’s giving you his full attention…see that as romance.
If he rests his hand on your leg, or holds your hand, or leans against you while you’re watching TV…see that as romance.
If he brings home any gift, large or small…see it as romance.
If he washes your car while he’s out…see that as romance.
People are busy, they’re tires, often burned-out, don’t get enough sleep, don’t eat healthy, are distracted.
The GRAND GESTURES are probably not going to show up.
So let go of them. They’re only setting you up for disappointment. And who feels great when someone is disappointed with them. No one. And you know what, when they don’t feel good about what’s going on between you, they’ll pull away.
Then you wonder what happened.
So I invite you to watch for those little gestures, and when they show up, let your guy know that he made you feel good, that you appreciate that he’s a romantic guy, and guess what? He’s very likely to add more romance because in all probability, he’s forgotten that you need it.
Be happy…it’s a choice,