Why Won’t He Work On The Relationship

Men are pretty lazy when it comes to the relationship. He is more than willing to work to capture you, but after that, he unconsciously hands the relationship over to you. “Here, honey, your take over.”

It’s about that stage that you start wondering, ‘What the heck happened?’ Well, laziness happened.

Watch this video and you’ll gain a better understanding of this dynamic, and hopefully, you’ll become more calm about what’s really going on.

The Nasty Truth

Do you know that you are being brainwashed multiple times each day? It’s true. It is the nasty truth behind the world of advertising.

The video below is a must if you want to take charge of how you feel about yourself. There is one thing in the video with which I must disagree. At the 3:48 minute mark, they say: You are The REAL woman. “Imperfections” are what make you YOU.

My disagreement is with their use of the word imperfections. I understand that they put quotes around it, but it could have been worded differently. For instance, maybe, What makes you YOU are exactly those things that cause you NOT to look like those skinny-ass women in the magazines.

Once we get to the point where we don’t like how we look, it’s a hard road back to liking that you are unique.

My suggestion is to begin by realizing that you are a miracle and quite magical.

Why do I say that? Think about it. At a small particle level, you are made up of the same stuff that the stars and planets are made of; the same stuff that the chair you are sitting on, the moon that makes you sigh, and those books on your shelf are made of.

But…and this is huge, you not only are a living being, but you are a human with ythe capacity to think, solve problems, love, and express your creativity. You get to be a human being on this glorious planet that is teeming with life.

That is quite unique in the universe. But even more than that, you get to be you. There never has been, nor will there ever be, another you.

I don’t know what God is. For me, it is whatever caused the universe to be. So in a way, God created you. You have been given this unique gift of being on Planet Earth, of being one of its brilliant life forms, and most special of all, you get to be YOU.

To do anything less than honor this exquisite gift of YOU is to dishonor God. And beyond that, to be anything less than the best person you can be, and that means being as happy as you can be, is a travesty.

Accept that you are unique, that you are special, and because you are here, right now, at this time on earth, you are precious and have a responsibility to offer the world the gift of you.

So go look in the mirror right now and really see yourself. Look in your eyes and say out loud, and use your name, “…you are special, you are unique, and you have much to offer the world. I am grateful for this unique body. I promise to love and honor it, and to share my love and compassion with the world.”

Now watch this video, and share it with every woman that you know, no matter their age.

Nothing Matters Without Love

Yes, love is what matters. And I’m not just talking about romantic love. Love, just love. Love for yourself, love for your pet, your pet’s love for you, love for the planet, love for all those people out there who are suffering and struggling for whatever reason.

Just love.

Watch this video all the way through and you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about.

Whatever you think is important, money, success, that new car, that new whatever…none of it matters. Not really, because those things aren’t what makes you happy.

I know, you’ve heard that a bazillion times before. But trust me, I’ve been rich, and I’ve been on the edge of wondering if I was going to be able to pay the rent.

The big lesson I’ve learned from living in the ‘ups’ and the ‘downs,’ is that the less I have, the happier I am, and the happier I am, the less I want.

The ‘good’ life is about the quality of your relationships. No, no, no…not how many friends you have. I’m talking about an authentic, deep, heart-to-heart connection.

How many of those do you enjoy? How many people have seen deep into your soul? And what’s my point? Well, my point is THAT is where love takes root.

Nope, it’s not the flutters in your belly or nether regions. No, it’s not that you think about them night and day, to the point that you can barely get anything done.

Love begins its journey of blossoming in those moments when you share your true self with someone.

And I’m not talking about that ‘amazing’ conversation you had with that new person when you discovered you like the same movies, the same books, and the same music.

When you think love is the flutters, the sexual need, the thinking about, the shared interests, it’s not. Not until you share your heart and soul with someone, and they share theirs. And in that sharing, you really see each other, maybe for the first time after knowing each other for years.

That is what love is.

A Free Tool You Might Like

KOFGTitleImageHave you looked at all the free information I offer on this website? If not, you might especially want to look at the free online workshops.

I got an email today from a woman who said she had gotten a lot of value out of the Five Facets Of Feminine Grace workshop and that it helped her get through some hard times.

I lot of what keeps you from not being as happy as you’d like is what I call your Core Wounding. Those are the things that happened to you early in your life, and caused you believe falsehoods about yourself.

Those beliefs often cause you to react to people and situations at an unconscious level, and cause you to make a mess of your life and your relationships.

The Feminine Grace workshop helps you clear away those false beliefs. When you do that, you discover the beautiful, bright light that you are and that allows you to enjoy life the way you’ve always wanted.

I invite you to take a little journey through the twelve classes and discover what is really true about you. That you are indeed beautiful, worthy of love, and deserve to be cherished.

What To Do When Your Feelings Get Hurt

needy-womenYesterday I heard two little kids fighting, one yelling at the other, “You hurt my feelings.” Little kids are still learning how to negotiate life. So it’s reasonable that they would blame someone else for how they feel. But for us adults, it’s important that we understand that we are completely in charge of how we respond to what others do and say to us.

So no one can hurt your feelings. No one can make you angry. No one can make you cry (unless they use physical force.) Each of us is responsible for how we react and respond to others. Part of that responsibility is how to communicate with your husband or boyfriend when they cross the line and treat you with a lack of love or respect.

Sometimes, if you don’t speak up, he doesn’t know that what he did or said upset you. So first, it’s important to communicate what’s going on. But if you blame or accuse, then communication won’t occur. Communication only happens when the person you’re speaking to understands what you’re saying. If they are defensive, they’re focused on protecting themselves, and coming up with something to say back. This is commonly referred to as a fight.

So how do you handle this kind of communication? First, let him know how what he said made you feel. Let him know you take responsibility for how you reacted, but that what he said didn’t feel good. It’s possible that he didn’t know you felt that way. Be sure you don’t blame or accuse, but ask him how this might be handled in the future. Together, come up with a loving, playful, or humorous way of letting him know he did or said something that didn’t feel good.

Real love can only happen when you both keep your hearts open to each other. Clear and loving communication will take you a long way toward making sure love grows, instead of drying up.